Hand In Marriage
Being the old-fashioned type of guy I am, I'm pretty much in the camp that a man should ask his parents-in-law to be for their blessing. But what about the same guy asking his own parents for their blessing? Let me be clear, I'm not saying that the guy should ask either set of parents for permission to marry but rather for their blessing. That said what are your thoughts about the guy asking his own parents for their blessing?
A friend said he might ask his parents' blessing to see what they thought of the girl's suitability for him. And he thought one should be even more inclined to say something if it is known that the parents didn't particularly like the girl so as to give them a heads up.
I think that it's pretty pointless to ask one's own parents. First, if you have to ask your parents what they think of the girl, then it's probably not meant to be. Second, the idea that one should give them a warning as a courtesy seems to me that you would only be inviting them to persuade/bitch you out of an idea that you should already be committed to at that point.
Any thoughts about this? Relatedly, do any of you girls still want their special guy to ask their parents for their hand in marriage or at least their blessing?
I would not ask my parents beforehand, only after I had talked to the in-laws and proposed. I'd probably ask them as if it was a hypothetical then surprise them that I already did just to mess with them haha. I can see it now. My mom would flip.